If conceiving your first child was easy, it can come as a real shock when you run into difficulty the second time around, as a result of secondary infertility.

Secondary infertility is similar in many ways to primary infertility when a couple has been unable to get pregnant after a year of regular sexual intercourse whilst not using birth control. However, with one child or more, this diagnosis creates unique challenges.

Here are 7 ways to cope with secondary infertility:

1- Consider What’s Changed Since Your Child Was Born: your age, extra weight, taking new meds, having surgery and it may also be that your partner’s sperm quality or production is now poor.

2- Be Proactive About Seeking Medical Assistance: With each year that passes, your chances of conceiving decrease significantly. Most experts recommend seeing your doc after a year of unsuccessful unprotected sex if you’re under the age of 35. If you feel you’ve waited long enough and are anxiety-ridden about conceiving another child, don’t wait any longer—schedule an appointment with fertility expert to discuss your concern.

3- Learn What Tests You Should Expect: you and your partner will be asked questions about your current health and medical history. Also expect blood work and ultrasounds to determine whether you’re ovulating and to check your egg supply, an X-ray to look for blocked fallopian tubes, and a semen analysis to measure sperm count and quality.

4- Create a Plan: Sit down with your partner and make a “fertility road map, that outlines what you’re willing to try and for approximately how long, would you do in vitro fertilization, how much money can you spend on treatment? Then build in a timeline.

5- Accept Your Feelings and don’t Suffer in Silence: Anger, sadness, and anxiety are common among parents struggling to expand their family. Meeting with professional specialty to help you or Exposing your fertility challenges to even one friend could lighten your load and bring you some relief.

6- Prep for Tough Questions: No matter how many times you’ve been asked, “When will you have another baby?” Try coming up with a quick comeback—like ‘We actually love having an only child.

7- Focus on Now: One of the biggest challenges is balancing enjoying the child you have with wondering if you’ll ever get the larger family you want. Worrying about what’s happening next robs you of the pleasure of the moment “It’s not easy, but counseling and talking yourself through the rough moments can help you say, ‘I’m doing the best I can, and meanwhile I’m living my life”.

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